March's post is unintentionally quite late. That said, the title and content occurred almost painlessly. Almost, in that I woke up considering the April post and realized I never posted March. What a way to wake up! Please bear with me while I share a bit of my ensuing thought process- For a fleeting moment I chastised myself for "dropping the ball". I then questioned myself about what got in the way. After batting around a few justifications, I landed on the fact that no-thing got in my way. It was all me. I failed to pay close attention to my calendar. An over-site for sure. Writing a monthly blog for GP is important to me. So what can I do to ensure posting doesn't get overlooked? I thought. Solution for better results in the future? Put it on the calendar more than once. Also, write the blog today. Better late than never. Never did occur to me... for a nano second. I pushed it aside... a bit like swiping the screen on a cell phone to get to the image I really want to see. My oversight turned into an organic way to create March's topic. So here goes... better late than never.
What do you typically do when you overlook (forget, fail, miss, neglect, omit) something or someone important to you- a task, appointment, conversation, etc.? I've been known to justify my actions. I still occasionally fall into this trap. Blaming, avoiding, excusing, defending, pardoning, even apologizing rarely resolves a situation... especially when we continue to make the same mistake over and over again. My "Achilles heel" is apparently being late. Taking resolute action can bring, of course, resolution... especially when it doesn't involve any form of justification. You know, like believing I have an Achilles heel. ;0}
Good thing we are not forgetfulness, failure, careless, etc. Keeping this in mind is a powerful way to stay away from justification and move toward resolution. When not separating what was out to be accomplished from attitudes and feelings about following through (for whatever reason), the risk of identifying as a failure is there. Very limiting indeed. When simply recognizing "that didn't work" we create the possibility of something that may work- a strategy, way of being, alternative conversation, etc. There's no time like the present. The future is waiting. No matter how many fingers we're holding up and who they're pointed at, blame is pointless. There's no resolution in avoiding issues in our relationships. Waiting for someone else to resolve situations we're able to navigate can be seen as irresponsible and dis-empowered. Fun clip/case in point-
Sometimes life can show up like an malfunctioning escalator, especially when we take it for granted... like we have all the time in the world to take care of that which is important to us. One of the more common excuses and complaints I hear is "I don't have time". Really? Is that true? Unless we're unconscious or deceased, we always have time to rectify (redeem, amend, improve, change, correct) situations truly important and impacting to us. You may want to ask yourself- How important is this to me, really? Could inaction be about avoiding conflict? Who or what's really keeping the situation as it is? Realization/awareness is the first step. As soon as we see infraction we can choose action. If it's honestly important to get complete on or about something, what's getting in the way? The how? What resources are available? What's the thought process about self, capability, relationship, situation? How we think can effect how or if we rectify a situation or not. If it's really important to you, be unreasonable. Don't give yourself a reason not to take care of the matter. What the heck! Be impulsive. If it occurs to you to do something that may be productive, go for it. Be prepared to fail and willing to keep experimenting with solutions to get the outcome you're looking for. Here's Mel Robbins to give ya a TED talkin' to... or not.-